As some of you might or might not know, I am an avid blog reader and I do live vicariously through other people's lives. (to borrow an often repeated mantra of a friend)
There exist the pessimistic, the optimist, the seeker, the oblivious, the narcissist, the exhibitionist, the mean, the talented, the dedicated, the braggart, the naive, the bitter and so on and so forth... well you get the idea. So although it's mainly just to fill the lack of adventure or incidents in my own life, occasionally you learn something new or something that distills what you have tried to grasp.
I saw this link at a friend's journal. This guy (in the video) is trying to explain to people the very transient nature of happiness and how it is very subjective to every individual and how it is more important to change your mindset rather than seek external fulfillment because nothing is permanent. You might actually end up being fixated on that 'object' and will be miserable when one condition that you sent for yourself is not fulfilled.
You should give it a listen at the very least and pay close attention to what is said and try to understand the idea that's being conveyed. At least try to understand that everything starts and ends with you. No one can make you miserable unless you give them the power to do so.
It's not so much about thinking happy thoughts which admittedly I do tell ppl to do but more to do with being more receptive to things and understanding that happiness comes from the one thing that we can control. Ourselves.
We just have to change the way we think.
It's not the easiest thing in the world but it can be done.
This is the video hosted at youtube. You can view it at TED.com if you're so inclined or if you can't get to youtube