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Soo Jin

Date: 2005-04-06 14:30
Subject: a moment..
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I am feelingsadsad
I was originally gonna post about my now seemingly trivial preoccupation about my relationship.. but I just received a call that put things into perspective. The mother of a good friend of mine had a brief struggle with cancer before she passed away last night.. I had scheduled with myself a visit to the hospital.. sometime this week.. imagine the... shock.. these are times when I remind myself, or rather I ask myself why do I procrastinate so?

Now.. although I never met the mother, I find myself feeling a little numb.. and feeling sorry for that friend of mine cos.. her father is not there.. for reasons I have never enquired and her mother has now passed away and.. it would all seem a little overwhelming for a person who's only 25 and has a younger brother who's still in uni.. What do you say to her? How do you console her? I'm at a loss.. I've never encountered something such as this before.. I mean I've been to funerals but they were usually older people.. like my grandfather.. not the parent of a friend of mine..

Should I just show up and offer assistance? or should i just go for the service? surely there's something I can help with.. but what?
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User: soonja
Date: 2005-04-06 18:54 (UTC)
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well... maybe don't say anything much (i guess firstly there's a risk of saying the wrong stuff, and then a lot of words of condolences are a given...), but let her know that you are around for her if she needs someone to talk to, and help her out wherever possible. yup i guess show up and help since she might not feel good about asking.
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User: dcsjin
Date: 2005-04-07 14:35 (UTC)
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condolences are so cliche..
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User: soonja
Date: 2005-04-08 19:15 (UTC)
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my bad! when i re-read the comment i thought it must have read like condolences are a given so definitely do it, but i really was trying to say condolences are a given so it's... yup, cliche and said many times over so don't repeat what most people would've said rather just show her you care loh.
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