What is it about humans that allow them to stop feeling guilty?
I was just watching the movie ‘Closer’ starring Julia Roberts, Clive Owen, Jude Law, Natalie Portman.
In this movie, Julia Roberts is the object of affection for both men. In her relationship with both, first she cheats on Clive Owen with Jude Law and then leaves Jude Law for Clive Owen after a re-encounter with the latter.
Natalie Portman plays Jude Law’s lover before and after his relationship with Julia Robert’s character. But in the end, she leaves Jude Law as well. Oh and she slept with Clive Owen’s character at one point as well.
There was one scene after the initial separation where they were happy and they kissed and they joked. Is that a facade on the part of the cheater? Does something not go at the back of their mind.. what if.. what if they find out? how should I tell them? what should I do now?
How do people let go of their feeling of guilt? I mean unless you have a mental defect where you’re physically unable to feel remorse/guilt then that might be possible.. But given a normal person with a normal upbringing, guilt should be a large part of their make-up.
Looking back, I guess now I feel a sense of amazement at how they could live with themselves after cheating on me. I mean, I could never live with myself. I could never live down the guilt of straying. I’ve spoken to someone about it. Basically what she does is that she compartmentalise it. Kind of like just blocks it out.
Truly I wonder.
Is love enough to overcome betrayal? The feeling that you’ve been wronged. The anger and confusion that comes with that feeling of betrayal. It’s one that I know all too well. But seriously, how do you live with yourself when you’ve done it?
Is the price of being happy, guilt?